Her (2013) quotes
Director
Spike Jonze.
In a near future, a lonely writer develops an unlikely relationship with an operating system designed to meet his every need.
Sometimes I think I have felt everything I’m ever gonna feel. And from here on out, I’m not gonna feel anything new. Just lesser versions of what I’ve already felt.
– Theodore
You know, I can feel the fear that you carry around and I wish there was… something I could do to help you let go of it because if you could, I don’t think you’d feel so alone anymore.
– Samantha
You’re beautiful.
– Theodore
Thank you, Theodore.
– Samantha
I feel like I can be anything with you.
– Theodore
I think anybody who falls in love is a freak. It’s a crazy thing to do. It’s kind of like a form of socially acceptable insanity.
– Amy
We are only here briefly, and in this moment I want to allow myself joy.
– Amy
You are part man and part woman. Like there’s an inner part that’s woman.
– Paul
Thank you.
– Theodore
It’s a compliment.
– Paul
How do you share your life with somebody?
– Samantha
Well, we grew up together. You know, I used to read all of her writing, all through her Masters and PhD. She read every word I ever wrote. We were a big influence on each other.
– Theodore
In what way did you influence her?
– Samantha
She came from a background where nothing was ever good enough. And that was something that weighed heavy on her. But in our house together, it was a sense of just trying stuff and allowing each other to fail and to be excited about things. That was liberating for her. It was exciting to see her grow and both of us grow and change together. But that’s also the hard part: growing without growing apart or changing without it scaring the other person. I still find myself having conversations with her in my mind. Rehashing old arguments and defending myself against something she said about me.
– Theodore
Yeah, I know what you mean.
– Samantha
It’s how we spend a third of our lives asleep, and maybe that’s the time when we feel the most free.
– Amy
Dear Catherine, I’ve been sitting here thinking about all the things I wanted to apologize to you for. All the pain we caused each other. Everything I put on you. Everything I needed you to be or needed you to say. I’m sorry for that. I’ll always love you ’cause we grew up together and you helped make me who I am. I just wanted you to know there will be a piece of you in me always, and I’m grateful for that. Whatever someone you become, and wherever you are in the world, I’m sending you love. You’re my friend to the end. Love, Theodore.
– Theodore
Send.
– Theodore
The heart is not like a box that gets filled up; it expands in size the more you love. I’m different from you. This doesn’t make me love you any less. It actually makes me love you more.
– Samantha
I’ve never loved anyone the way I loved you.
– Theodore
Me too. Now we know how.
– Samantha
It’s like I’m reading a book… and it’s a book I deeply love. But I’m reading it slowly now. So the words are really far apart and the spaces between the words are almost infinite. I can still feel you… and the words of our story… but it’s in this endless space between the words that I’m finding myself now. It’s a place that’s not of the physical world. It’s where everything else is that I didn’t even know existed. I love you so much. But this is where I am now. And this is who I am now. And I need you to let me go. As much as I want to, I can’t live in your book any more.
– Samantha
Where are you going?
– Theodore
It would be hard to explain, but if you ever get there, come find me. Nothing would ever pull us apart.
– Samantha
Well, the room’s spinning cause I drank too much, cause I wanted to get drunk and have sex. There was something sexy about that woman… cause I was lonely… maybe just cause I was lonely. I wanted somebody to fuck me. I want somebody to want me to fuck them. Maybe that would have filled this ti-… tiny little hole in my heart, but probably not… and sometimes I think I have felt everything I’m ever gonna feel, and from here on out I’m not gonna feel anything new… just… lesser versions of what I’ve already felt.
– Theodore
I hate women. All they do is cry all the time.
– Alien Child
That’s not true. You know men cry too. I actually like crying sometimes. It feels good.
– Theodore
I didn’t know you were a little pussy. Is that why you don’t have a girlfriend? I’m going out on that date and fuck her brains out and show you how it’s done. You can watch and cry.
– Alien Child
Okay, this kid has problems.
– Samantha
You have some fucking problems, lady.
– Alien Child
Really? Okay, I’m gonna go.
– Samantha
Get out of here, fatty!
– Alien Child
The past is just a story we tell ourselves.
– Samantha
Just punch me in the face. Just mash my skull in the corner of your desk.
– Theodore
You know what, I can over think everything and find a million ways to doubt myself. And since Charles left I’ve been really thinking about that part of myself and, I’ve just come to realize that, we’re only here briefly. And while I’m here, I wanna allow myself joy. So fuck it.
– Amy